For your anniversary and/or birthday just tell him what you want. Write it down if you don’t think he’s listening; take pictures if he still doesn’t get it. Even better, just buy it for yourself. This is what works for me! 🙂
Today is my anniversary. We’ve been married 9 years. What did I get for my anniversary & Valentine’s Day present? A much needed case for my iPod. It’s what I wanted, I was in the mall and called him, he told me to go ahead and get it, I’m happy. Plain and simple. After 9 years surprises are sometimes good but at this point not always necessary. I love him more than I did then on our wedding day. Just because he doesn’t surprise me with some extravagant gift doesn’t mean the magic is gone. It hasn’t even stalled.